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Being single during COVID

Hey hey everyone and welcome back. It’s been a while hasn’t it. Well you haven’t missed much. I have just been working and eating since we last spoke. But lately things have been playing on my mind and I thought it was time for a blog.

Its all to do with my single life in during Covid. So pop that kettle on and take 5 minutes from your day and have a little read.

I used to joke that being single for the past 4 years prepared me for lockdown and COVID. I mean, I haven't been on a date in quite some time, and then when lockdown happened, I thought well it's not going to change my life in terms of dating and finding Mr. Right. However, it has been nearly six months since lockdown, and the whole world has changed, and now it's starting to feel a little scary.

Before COVID, I used to always go on the apps, you know the ones, TINDER, GRINDR, and Plenty of Fish and at least try to have a chat. I mean, I was very fussy. I wasn't looking for a hookup or endless chat but was hoping to get a date out of it. Or at least make some new friends. I used to have people message me, and to be honest, I would ignore them... I wasn't very friendly, and the ones I did fancy only wanted one thing.

But then lockdown happened, and I thought to myself "ahhh this is fine, I haven't had a relationship in 4 years, I haven't had a date in ages, so this will be a walk in the park. I then heard stories from friends and families who were telling me that being locked down with their partners and children was tough. I thought to myself, "I'm so lucky I'm not in that position." But now we are coming out on the other side (well hopefully… Remember to wear your masks) and I'm starting to feel very different. I do want a partner, someone to cuddle up to at night. Someone to share my fears with and them tell me it's going to be ok. And obviously, I want to do the same for that person too. I have seen so many relationships become more robust since the lockdown. I'm pretty jealous.

Now don't get me wrong, I have a fantastic support group of friends and family, and I would be lost without each one of them. But it is not the same.

As we move out of lockdown and life is starting to get back to normal, I'm beginning to think about how I am going to get back on the dating scene. I told myself on New Years' eve that this was going to be the year I got out of my comfort zone and started meeting people. Obviously, Jesus had other plans… But now, with restrictions, how am I going to meet someone.

Yes, the apps are still there, but no one is chatting to anyone, and I don't think I'm anywhere near ready to venture out into this new world. I mean, blind dates never happened for me. I think my friends knew better than to try and set me up with someone. But could you imagine it now having to be two meters apart wearing masks? I mean, you can hardly call it romantic. When it comes to the apps, though, I'm not even trying now. I'm thinking, "what's the point" sure, no one is meeting anyone. It is just going to be mindless chat, and to be honest, I couldn't be arsed with that. Am I too fussy or just being an old fashioned romantic where a ride isn't the first thing on my mind??

I have meant to join social groups over lockdown and thought to myself it would be great. However, I never got round to it. Now I'm too scared to join any. Oh god, will I turn into an old lonely gay man… Probably!!!

Now obviously, the other reason I have been afraid to get out there is due to me gaining the COVID Kilo… Well, in my case, it is the COVID TONNE. I need to get back in shape before I do anything.

So it looks like 2020 will be no different from other years for me. I'm still gonna be single and looking for love. But if I could go back 6 months and give myself one bit of advice, it would be to reach out to some of the support groups out there. I really could have done with knowing there were others out there like me. Maybe it is not too late!!

It's never too late to try something new, meet new people, join some social groups, and find some new hobbies. I mean, it can be that hard. One group I have seen is the Gay Cork group. You can find them on Facebook. They seem to have a great social group providing support to people who could be isolated during these strange times. I am going to take a look and see what's in the Cork area and maybe join a new group. Wish me luck everyone.

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